The epidemic I see most often in biblical marriage counseling cases I am privileged to serve in are passive husbands and assertive wives. The two go hand in hand, unfortunatlely, and I blame the husband for much of this problem (though wives are not totally without some blame).
Most Christian men I counsel in marriage counseling are too passive. They allow their wives to do anything and everything for them. These men are sinning by omission in that they are failing to lovingly lead their wives and families. They are neglecting the spiritual needs of their wives and children and are provoking them to anger indirectly (Eph. 6:4).
I am not advocationg men to be dictators. Men think that being a dictator is being a leader when it is not. It is just further evidence of living in the flesh under the curse of sin mentioned in Genesis 3:16 – “your desire shall be for your husband but he shall rule over you.” It will take the power of the Holy Spirit to transform both the man and his wife to overcome this curse of sin in the flesh, but it can be accomplished by God’s grace!
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