When a crisis arises in an abusive relationship, there is little time to plan how to safely leave if you need to. If you are in an currently in an abusive situation, you can increase your safety by considering the following:I will have important phone numbers accessible to me & my children. (These numbers are listed on the back).
I can tell __________ and __________ about the violence and ask them to call the police
if they hear suspicious noises coming from my home.
If I leave my home I can go (list 4 places) __________________________________________
I can leave extra money, car keys, clothes, and copies of documents with
If I leave, I will bring (see checklist on back) ____________________________ ___________________
If an argument turns violent when we are at home, I will try to move to an area of low risk
(when possible, avoid altercations in the kitchen due to the availability of weapons).
To ensure safety and independence, I can: keep change for phone calls with me at all times, open my own savings account, rehearse my escape routes with my children and support person, and review this safety plan weekly.
INCREASING SAFETY WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER
I can change the locks, install steel/metal doors, a security system, smoke detectors,
and an outside lighting system.
I will inform __________ and __________ that my partner no longer resides with me and to
call the police if he/she is observed near my residence or my children.
I will tell people who take care of my children the names of those who have permission
to pick them up. The people who have permission are
I can tell _______________ at work about my situation and ask __________ to screen my calls
I can avoid stores, banks, and ____________ that I used while residing with my abuser
I can obtain a protective order from __________ court, keep it on or near me at all times and
leave a copy with__________
If I feel down and ready to return to a potentially abusive situation, I can call _______ for support
or attend workshops and support groups to gain support and strengthen my relationships with
If I am being stalked on the highway, some things I can do are:
- Go to the nearest police station
- Flash my lights and blow my horn at passing motorists
- Yell for help out the car windows
- Buy a “Call the Police” banner and display it in my back windshield or in my car windows
- Drive to any public area where there are lots of people
- Stick to heavily traveled roads
- Stay in well-lit areas
CHECKLIST ITEMS TO TAKE
- Identification (e.g. birth certificate, Social Security cards)
- Change of clothes
- School and medical records
- Money, bank book, credit card
- Keys (house, car, office)
- Driver’s license/registration
- Medication for self & kids
- Pictures and jewelry
- Other sentimental items
- Welfare identification
- Passport, green card, etc.
- Divorce papers
- Lease/rental agreement
- House deed, mortgage payment book and insurance papers
- Current unpaid bills
- Children’s toys/blankets
IMPORTANT PHONE NUMBERS: