At the end of myself…at the feet of Jesus

Matthew 25: 40, And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.

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I’ve counseled people for over 10 years for just about every kind of problem under the sun.  I’ve helped people with broken marriages, eating disorders, cutting, and just about every kind of addiction there is today.  There is one problem that makes me more upset than just about any other.  And it isn’t even the issue that is presented to me to “fix.”  It is the issue BEHIND the issue.  It is enabling.

Enabling can be done in a marriage when the unfaithful spouse has excuses made for him by the very wife that he betrayed.  Usually it sounds like this: “Bob wants to be faithful to me.  He just has an unusually high sex drive.  And his dad was the same way.  I’m pretty sure it’s genetic.  Men aren’t good at being monogamous, anyway.”

Enabling can also be done in a relationship that has been broken by domestic violence.  It may sound like this: “Adam is a good man.  He only hits me when his boss stresses him out at work.  He’s been doing much better recently.  He brought me flowers yesterday.  He really loves me!”

Enabling is often done in the context of substance abuse, too.  Many times, the addict’s loved ones are afraid that the addict will never talk with them again ….

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